How You Can Overcome The 'I Can't Barrier'.

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Failing to run under a specific time is a disappointment for a sprinter after much preparation just like missing a weight loss target for an individual who seeks to improve their fitness. It is the cycle of trial and error that can cause you to quit all together. How do you get over that stumble block that always gets in the way when things are going pear shaped? It is a question that we come across in many aspects of our lives. When you attempt to bake a cake for the first time you might not get it right the first, second, third or even fourth time. Whilst your counter part bakes it perfectly in one go. I am sure you can think of the number of reasons for this.

In sport things not going your way can sometimes be a constant theme and if it carries on it  can become a struggle when you are not able to handle it.  Learning a new skill or approach can be extremely frustrating when things are not going positively for you. It is especially annoying when it seems as you have tried everything to get it right.  It may be easier for somebody experienced to over come it but even elite athletes are faced with this mental challenge. The perfectionist within you wants to it to be accurate all the time.

As person who wants to be fit and active you need to overcome this 'I Can't Barrier' to help you remain focused in adversity. There is nothing wrong with being a perfectionist but a lot of the times it is you who is putting yourself under too much pressure.

1. Consider the progress

When it comes to progress it is about making consistent progress that is vital. You need to be realistic and less naive regarding what is achievable by YOU within a certain period of time. So you may not have reached the results you wanted but your performance should be getting gradually better. Keep track of improvements and learn to take positives as much as the negatives. For example monitor your progress, if the100m sprint is your event you may not run under an aimed time in the initial week you had planned. However you may reach your target the next few weeks. This is something you should take heart from because you are improving. It is when the reverse is happening you should start worrying.

2. Do Things Better

When I refer to doing things better it involves assessing your strengths as well as your weaknesses. It is easy to point out what went wrong. For instance when you have been out of playing regular football for a few weeks, you are slowly getting back to fitness and thus target a specific game where you want to last at least 60 minutes on the field. You ended up not even making it to 40 minutes. What happened and what could you have done better as an athlete? Here the answer is probably lack of stamina which may also link back to needed to work longer on enhancing your core fitness. Hence it is not a question of what went wrong but what you could have done better. If you focus too much on how you do things went wrong there is a danger of believeing that you can't do it.

3. Ask For Help/Advice

Asking for help and advice is an opportunity to introduce fresh thoughts and perspectives.  You would be surprised by the number of people who fail to ask for help. Sometimes you need accept that you need assistance to reach your goals. Be open to asking for help and suggestions from friends, team mates and experts. A little piece of advice from even a parent can trigger a whole new idea you didn't previously think about. Take a situation where you know an individual who is good at keeping their composure when aiming for the basketball hoop but you have a problem with this. ASK THEM: what works for you? what do you do to keep relaxed before shooting? what do you think I could do better?  Sometimes you can become caught up in your own world and forget that there is actually plenty of information and people who are willing to help you out. 

4. Model

It can be effective to model an individual or group of people's methods and techniques. For example someone who does Judo and wishes to perfect their self defence technique in Kime No Kata may seek to model a master at this particular movement. If you do not  personally know  someone with this skill you could always research through books and manuals which should have illustrations and explanations of the movements. Alternatively, the Internet is full of video demonstrations. The person that is modelled does not have to be well known or indeed an elite athlete. It could be someone that you train with regularly.

You can overcome the I can't do it barrier by appreciating that you will have to pass through more trials and errors than you anticipated.You will gradually get there with persistence , consistency and hard work. Follow these four steps to help you get started. 




Good luck.

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